This is going to sound funny to some, but Mike In Boston (MIB), regular contributor of this site and I met for the first time today. We both work in midtown Toronto and grabbed a sandwich at my new favorite spot called Picnic. I told Mike the story of how this site started and how I first got connected with many people in the sports media business. Mike, I am sure will chime in, but I think he was surprised to hear that all of my connections came simply from writing. One by one people would reach out and the rest is history.
Well, one of those who reached out along the journey was Adrian Dater of the Denver Post. We never spoke on the phone, never met but we did email and direct tweet from time to time and we are facebook friends. Like so many of the indsutry types, I have an affinity for those who have reached out over the years as I appreciate the effort. I don’t do what I do for any other reason then pure joy and if someone takes the time out to set me straight, to yell at me or the odd time pay a compliment then that too is awesome. So while I never met Adrian, I will say I like him.
Well, Adrian had gotten himself in some hot water over the years, mostly for going off on Twitter and tonight it has, I hope temporarily, ended his career. That’s too bad.
Adrian has posted on his facebook page a really nice note to those of us who care about what is going on.
Take a look:
My long association with the Post came to an end today. That’s a really bad thing to have to write, but it’s reality.
I said a bunch of stupid things on social media once too often. It was unprofessional and I paid the price.
Social media and I were always going to be a dangerous mix. I’m opinionated and have the occasional real hot temper.
But my problems were deeper than that.
I’ve had some pretty bad substance abuse problems. Every single time I got myself in trouble with my mouth, substances helped play a role, probably a big one.
I tried to deny it was a big problem but it obviously was and is.
A lifestyle of a lot of late nights away from home in lonely hotel rooms and a stressful lifestyle at times kind of caught up with me. I used too many wrong things as coping mechanisms. I also have dealt with manic depression for years and when the real dark moods come over me I tend to do things to hurt myself more. I don’t want these to be used as excuses or to win sympathy. But I’m just adding explanations of what I’ve had problems with.
I do believe some things said about me recently in accusatory manners is totally false, with people misrepresenting things. Some things that have been written about one incident are completely wrong.
But the bottom line is I caused my own problems and have to own them.
I’ve been seeking more in-depth help for some of my problems and if I could ask for one thing, it’s that you hope for the best that I can.
I know I’m a good person down deep, but greatly flawed.
It was my pleasure writing on the Avalanche for 20 years for a great paper. Nobody can take those memories away.
I love my family and the No. 1 thing I need to do is try and make them proud of me again.
I’m so sorry I let people down. I hope to some day write a happier comeback story for you to read.
That’s heart felt and sincere.
I am not sure if it’s appropriate to say get well soon here, but certainly that is my wish to you my friend. Hang in there Adrian, get the help you need so you too can get back on the horse.
BTW- best moment on the Mike Richards show, perhaps ever was this am when he interviewed Pat Hickey of the Montreal Gazette. Awesome, awesome radio.